A newsletter for Young Adult Friends, and Families, of New York Yearly Meeting
It is a glorious October day as I write this. It is unseasonably warm, and the sun is fabulous! I hope your fall is starting off well.
A word about this newsletter. I know that there is a lot of information. I invite you to skim, or to look at the list of articles and choose what is relevant to you. I am not a graphic designer, and soon I will have someone help me with layout, and editing, but until then, use what is helpful to you, and refer back when you need it. Spread it around. Send it to your clerks, print it and post it at your meetings. Use it however it is helpful!
A couple weeks I attended a weekend in Richmond, Indiana. It was hosted by Friends United Meeting, FUM. The theme was Sabbath Rest for people who work with Youth and Young Adults. It was a great weekend! Below you can read what I wrote about it on my blog. I am excited about the connections I made and the depth of the sharing.
In a few weeks, on November 1-3, at Powell House is our next family weekend. This is weekend where the ENTIRE family can be together in sessions, and all be engaged and learning. The topic is Stewardship: loving care of ourselves, our families, and the wider world. Sign up soon!! The weekend we did in May was a success, and I expect this one will as well.
FALL SESSIONS is fast approaching. Summer is not the only time we gather to do the business of the Yearly Meeting! You have other opportunities to gather in work, worship and fellowship. November 15-17 2013 Fall Sessions will be held at Caldwell College and Chatham Summit MM in Northern NJ. There will be a youth program! Ages 0-18. see below for more information. Also there is a multi generational gathering with Chris and Mike from Powell House, on Friday night at Chatham Summit MM. I hope to see many of you there! You can go to the NYYM websiteand keep your eyes out for Spark, for more info!
Do you miss Circle of Young Friends retreats? Do you long for the opportunity to meet and be with other Young Adult Friends? Young Adults Concerns Committee wants to get YAF weekends up and running again. There is a sub committee that is looking for members who can help with that planning. This is not a nominated committee with NYYM. See the article below for information.
Do you have something you would like to share with YAF and Families in NYYM? I would welcome photographs, artwork, poetry, essays, haiku, meaningful quotes and passages, you name it!
Peace and Blessings,
Gabi Savory Bailey Young Adult Field Secretary, NYYM—email@example.com
IN THIS NEWSLETTER
What is YACC?
Where has Gabi been? Where is she going?
Report from the Young Adult Field Secretary about weekend at FUM conference
Upcoming conferences at Powell House, Pendle Hill and NYYM Young Adult Friends
Spotlight on acommittee, The new YACC Event Planning Sub-Committee
VOLUNTEER and INTERN opportunities, Young Friends in Residence, American Friends Service Committee
2014 Quaker Youth Pilgrimage to Bolivia and Peru is looking for Young Adult Leaders!
What is going on with other YAF and Families in NYYM?
UPCOMING NYYM EVENTS : FALL SESSIONS!!! Come check it out!
What is YACC?
The Young Adults Concern Committee (YACC) is a committee of NY Yearly Meeting. It is the committee that oversees the Circle of Young Friends (CYF) and the retreats they plan. YACC also plans the CYF activities for Summer Sessions each year. This committee is one way that Young Adults can find voice in the Yearly Meeting. YACC is also interested in the spiritual nurture and care of Friends between 18-35 ish. YACC meets regularly throughout the year on the internet, and also in person at Summer Sessions, and one other annual meeting.
Currently sitting on this committee are: Jens Braun- Old Chatham MM, Rosie Stillman—Montclair MM, Audrey Jaynes—Montclair MM, Jenny Pronto Adirondack/Ithaca/Poplar Ridge MM, Anthony Smith—New Brunswick MM, Alanna Badgley—Poughkeepsie MM, Joy Meilke--Wilton MM, Robin Mullaney, Nick Rozard, Alfred MM, Noah Pomerselig, New Paltz MM. If you have any questions, ideas or concerns please contact a member of YACC. You can also contact me to put you in touch with YACC. Are you interested in getting involved with YACC? They are actively looking for Friends who have gifts in organizing conferences, reaching out to new people, spiritual nurture, recognizing gifts, eldering, hospitality, and community development. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or co-clerks Alanna Badgely and Audrey Jaynes.
Where have I been? Where am I going?
May 10-12 Leading a Family Weekend at Powell House This was a Powell House opportunity for the WHOLE family. During this weekend we looked at what tools Quakerism gives us as families and individuals to help us in our daily life. Through story, art, role playing, discussion, small groups, worship and active participation of people of all ages, we explored tools like holding someone in the light, worship/centering, simplicity, clearness committees/discernment and others. We createe a “toolbox” that families and their members can use. There was not be childcare at this weekend, as the children were part of the sessions with the adults. There was time for parents to talk about their experiences as well. This was an opportunity for families to do meaningful Quaker work together!
June 9 and June 22 Gathering of Young Families and Young Adult Friends in Northern NJ.
I hosted 2 get togethers at my home, in Denville, NJ, near Morristown, on June 9 and 22. We did this last year, and it was a lot of fun. We gathered for a BBQ/Potluck. :) All kids and significant others were welcome! There are more people interested in a regularly meeting group. This event was open to 18-35 ish year olds, and families that have young children. Spread the word to others you know! :) You can email me with questions. email@example.com
June 30 VIsit to WIlton MM, CT
July 21-27 Summer Sessions, Silver Bay.
Keeping Faith: Answering That of God in All Creation This is the annual NYYM Sessions held at Silver Bay on Lake George. It is a residential gathering for people of all ages where we do our YM business, fellowship, speakers, Junior Yearly Meeting, committees, interest groups, swimming and activities, and worship. There will be much more information coming up soon. If you love Summer Sessions, tell people! If you want to know more, contact me for information. Nyym.firstname.lastname@example.org.
September 7 Montclair MM, Facilitating a discussion for Religious Education
September 13-15 Advancement consultation, Powell House
September 20-22-- Facilitator at the Bridging the Gap conference, Richmond Indiana
This September 20-22, we be gathered at Friends United Meeting's headquarters in Richmond, Indiana, to explore what it means to practice ongoing care for and ministry to our youth and young adults. What does it look like to lead a sustainable lifestyle, avoiding burnout while caring for younger Friends? What does it mean to experience the Sabbath rest that Jesus offers us (Matthew 11:28-30)? Gabi offered a workshop, see article below for my report.
October 5-6--Visit to Farmington MM.
October 11 Chatham Summit MM retreat
November 1-3 Family weekend at Powell House on Stewardship (please see description in Powell House weekends section.
November 13-15 Fall Sessions, hosted by All Friends Regional Meeting, Caldwell College and Chatham Summit MM, NJ.
Would you like me to come to your Meeting, or Region? Would you like someone to support the work that is already being done there? I am eager to travel to do a program, support an existing program, or simply sit and listen. Contact me at email@example.com
Report from the Young Adult Field Secretary on my experience at a recent FUM conference
I was invited to facilitate a session and speak on a panel for an Friends United Meeting (FUM) conference on Sabbath Rest for Youth and Young Adult workers.
This was a little out of my comfort zone. I was nervous.
Friends, It was wonderful. It was a blessing to be present with Youth and Young Adult workers from different parts of the country, and across traditions. I felt accepted and supported. I heard that my experiences in New York Yearly Meeting are not so radically different from Friends in other parts of the country as I sometimes think. My time there affirmed that there are so many ways that we can support each other, regardless of the ways that we worship. The staff of FUM was warm and welcoming. They were interested in what I am doing, and about how things are going with young adults and families in NYYM. They made me feel a part of the weekend.
My experience showed me that now more than ever, we need to be in relationship with other Quakers. We need to see how God is working. I have a lot to learn. I need to keep listening.
I came out of it less afraid. I made connections that I hope will be fruitful. I am grateful for the openness that I experienced, and the faithfulness with which I was greeted. I am grateful to FUM for reaching out to me. I am excited for what may come out of this.
I was reminded that I need to rest. I am only as good at my work, as the care I give myself. I am trying to figure out how this will play out in my position as Young Adult Field Secretary in NYYM. But I have a clearer idea of the importance care is in the work we all do.
How often do you step out of your comfort zone? Do you consider visiting Meetings from a different worship tradition? Do you engage with Friends from other places in the world? How do you understand yourself in the wider world of Friends? If you tend to keep within your Quaker neighborhood, Meeting, region, Yearly Meeting, what is it that keeps you there?
I am so glad that I stepped out.
YAF CONFERENCES FOR NYYM ( families welcome! )
UPDATE on the YAF conference Replenishing the Well on self- care, May 31-June 2 Unfortunately, this weekend has been postponed. We will let you know as soon as we can about when it has been rescheduled. Want to see a weekend happen? Consider joining the new Events and conferences planning sub committee. :)
Want to use your skills? Want to learn new ones? Want to play, dance, and share in the best 57 acres of God's creation in Columbia County, NY? Bring your favorite tools, old clothes, and hearty appetites. We'll have plenty of work projects, inside and out, for all ages - and lots of good food to keep you sustained. Contra Dance Friday night begins at 8:15pm. Bob Lohaus is our caller. The band will be headed up by Francis Lindop. Story-telling by Claire Beetlestone on Saturday night after a long day's work. Register by October 7th: $75 adults; $10 children & youth. After October 7th: probably no beds left! Childcare for 10 & younger with three weeks notice.
THIS IS A FAMILY WEEKEND. It is intended for whole families to participate, thus, there is no child care as all children, no matter the age, will be in sessions with everyone else. The sessions are intentionally planned to be multigenerational.
How do we answer Spirit's call to love and care for one another? How do we nurture that of God in our families, our friends, and ourselves? Join us for a practical, hands-on exploration of loving kindness through play, worship, art, and music. In this intentionally multi-generational weekend, all ages work together to develop connections within and between families. This weekend is coordinated and facilitated by Gabi Savory Bailey, Young Adult Field Secretary for NYYM and others. There will be planning support and input from a variety of other concerned individuals and NYYM committees.
Register by Oct. 21st: $220 for families of 1 or 2; $330 for 3 or 4; $440 for families of 5 or more. After Oct. 21st: $240/$360/$480
Are you doing more than you used to in order to ensure a loved one is safe and healthy?
Are you visiting, calling, concerned, accompanying to the doctor, picking up groceries, or worried about a loved one's driving?
YOU are a caregiver and this weekend is for you. Whether you care for a parent, a partner, a friend, or a sibling, the increased responsibility for their care can be hard on you. Caregivers are at a remarkably high risk of burning out and becoming sick themselves. This weekend retreat will give you an opportunity to renew your internal health, tell your story, ask questions, seek support, learn about resources, and be with others who are on this same journey and understand. Previous participants highly recommend this weekend as a respite time to refill the well! Our weekend together will feature outside experts and relevant topics in addition to ARCH staff and Visitors. Extensive financial support is available to enable you to attend this weekend.Register by November 1st: $220 adults; $110 ages 13-22 and commuters; $55 infants-12. After November 1st: $240/$120/$60
Society's expectations can wound you and cause you to wound others - physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In this retreat you will explore how Spirit leads you to healing and wholeness. Together, we will develop a healing community that will support your becoming the man you truly want to be and your Creator intended you to be. During this retreat we will consider these queries: What wounds have you suffered as a result of the expectations of your family, your teachers, your peers, and all of society? What wounds have you inflicted on yourself as you tried to "be a man" and "take it like a man?" What wounds have you inflicted on others because you accepted society's view of a man as a fighter, a warrior, and sometimes even a killer? The company of other men who share the Quaker spirit creates a safe space to explore the ways we have been wounded, the ways we have wounded others, and the ways all men are wounded. From this exploration we turn to hoe that of God within us may bring us healing and lead us in ways that will bring healing to others.
Sunfire (Robert Kazmayer) is a member of Easton Friends Meeting.
Register by November 1st: $220 adults; $110 ages 13-22 and commuters; $55 infants - 12. Children's Program and Childcare provided with three weeks notice.
This weekend course is designed to enhance our understanding of strategic thinking by drawing on our collective and individual experiences of planning and doing, or thinking purposefully about how we can get from where we are to where we want to be.
Based on the work of Parker J. Palmer and the Center for Courage & Renewal®, this retreat series explores issues of transition, vocation, passion, life purpose, meaning, direction, and underlying life patterns to help us live in greater alignment with our values, reconnecting who we are with what we do.
Explore the basics of Quaker faith and practice and discover how they connect with your own spiritual experience. You will find opportunities for worship, discussion, sharing, and questions with fellow seekers and seasoned Quaker facilitators.
How do we experience and practice heaven on earth today? This course will look at early Quaker apocalyptic spirituality and politics, and how early Friends reclaimed the message of Jesus and Paul. We will then look at Quaker history as a series of revisions, each suggesting how heaven and earth come together.
November 22-24, 2013
This is an opportunity for both new and experienced clerks of Friends’ meetings and committees to meet and think together about the role of presiding clerk.
Relax into a time of serene rest and renewal. Open to the new year’s unfolding with a retreat that honors your heart, mind, and soul. Practice mindful meditation, savor periods of silence, reflection with poetry and stories by the fireplace, discussion, an afternoon in the art studio, gentle yoga, and more. Enter the new year with greater calm, clarity, and energy - and ways to sustain yourself in 2014.
Whether you are a classical music newbie or a seasoned enthusiast, prepare to be blown away by Karl Middleman’s navigation of the exciting musical cross-currents of such composers as Debussy, Stravinsky, and Prokofiev. Also included are American composers inspired by jazz and musical theater.
Join us for a joyous alcohol-free New Year’s Eve Celebration featuring hors d’oeuvres, an inspired home-cooked dinner with local organic ingredients, a chamber music concert with Maestro Middleman and family and surprise guest performers, and a candlelight Meeting for Worship to welcome the New Year.
There are funds available to help make conferences possible! PLEASE contact me, Helen Garay Toppins (firstname.lastname@example.org) or the clerk of your Monthly Meeting to find out how to get financial assistance. Questions about Transportation? Let’s talk. I bet there is a solution!
Spotlight on a committee: YACC event planning sub-committee
PLEASE NOTE:This is an Ad Hoc Committee, and is not nominated through the Nominating Committee of NYYM.
The Young Adult Concerns Committee (YACC) is seeking Friends aged 18-35 who are interesting in helping plan and realize events for the Young Adult Friends (YAF) of our Yearly Meeting. Do you know any such YAF who are seeking to become more involved in the life of the Yearly Meeting? Anyone who has a gift for event logistics, creative planning, promotion work, or the conducting of gatherings? We seek both younger and older YAF and YAF from all regions of our Yearly Meeting, because we want to plan events that are relevant for all.
Please advertise this newly formed YAF Planning Committee in your Monthly Meeting. Even if you are not a Young Adult Friend, we would love to have you contribute to our events as a guest speaker or workshop leader.
All those interested should contact the clerks of YACC, Audrey Jaynes and Alanna Badgley, by emailing them at the following addresses:
Planning Committee is responsible for the organizing and coordinating of community events, especially retreats. For each event, they will set the date, create the program, invite the speakers, promote the event, plan a schedule, run the retreat, and do any necessary follow-up. The Young Adult Concerns Committee will work with Planning Committee to help book the venue, hire the cook, handle registration, and create and distribute a ride list.
Planning Committee is responsible for three Yearly Meeting wide retreats each year, as well as developing and running YAF focused programming at Summer Sessions. The planning of regional events is encouraged but not required. Planning Committee is not responsible for fundraising for events. That responsibility belongs to YACC.
Planning Committee is a subcommittee of YACC, but is open to all Young Adults in the Yearly Meeting. However, Planning Committee always includes at least one member of YACC who can report back to the supercommittee.
Volunteer and Intern Opportunities Abound and Abroad!
Young Friends in Residence (YFIR)
Are you interested in living in a Quaker community with other young adult Friends? If so, then Young Friends In Residence (YFIR) may be the perfect program for you!
We are looking for young adult interns who will live in intentional community with 1-2 other interns. Work includes developing youth and adult programs focused on creating a space for friends of all ages to experience, live in and respond to Spirit. Interns are encouraged to immerse themselves in the local community and participate in the life of Perry City Monthly Meeting and the wider Quaker Community. An openness to grow and deepen spiritually is required as is experience in Quaker practices.
If you have any questions, or want to request more information, including a more extensive job description and an application, please email us at YFIRwg@gmail.com
American Friends Service Committee has many opportunities to volunteer, and to intern. Learn more at www.afsc.org
2014 Quaker Youth Pilgrimage to Bolivia & Peru
Cradles of Andean Quakerism
July 22 -August 21, 2014
The Quaker Youth Pilgrimage Program Committee is deep in the planning of a 2014 experience to be hosted by Andean Friends in Peru and Bolivia. We are working carefully and prayerfully to construct the first QYP experience to be held entirely in evangelical yearly meetings as well as the first Quaker Youth Pilgrimage in South America.
Application forms now available for pilgrim and leader applicants
pilgrim application. [177KB PDF] Apply by December 1, 2013 Must be between 16-18 years of age leader application. [163 KB PDF] Apply by November 15, 2013. Must be Over 18 and proficient in both English and Spanish.
Spot light on a NYYM Young Adult Friend: Check back here next month! We will have another YAF soon!
Know a young adult, or parent of a young family, who is doing good work? Let me know, so I can include them. email@example.com
What’s going on with YAFs and families in the Yearly Meeting?
These are examples of gatherings past and present. If you see something interesting, see me and I will set you up with a contact person.
15th Street MM- Friends under 40 (anyone is invited) meet once a month after Meeting for Worship, choose a local eatery (inexpensive preferably) and walk to lunch. It is a very informal gathering, for fellowship and food.
Brooklyn MM- Young Adult Friends meet for a potluck once a month at the home of one of the YAF from the meeting. There is time for food, worship and fellowship. At least once a year there is also a gathering in the old Quaker cemetery in Prospect Park, Brooklyn, for a picnic, and sometimes worship. They also organize hikes, and other excursions outside of the city.
Ithaca area MM -- YA Friends gather once a month at Burtt House, a property owned by Ithaca Monthly Meeting, in Ithaca. They have a potluck and fellowship.
Rochester MM Parents worship sharing-- Rochester Friends met for an hour of parents' worship sharing while their children engage in an activity downstairs. The meeting begins with silent worship, followed by individual check in, then a query and worship sharing. Afterwards there is a family pot luck dinner.
Rochester MM family worship--This was an experiment in a monthly opportunity for semi-programmed Worship for people of all ages.
Brooktondale worship group--This group is under the care of Poplar Ridge Monthly Meeting. They meet the first Sunday of the month at a community center. People of ALL AGES are welcome. The format will be very simple. It will start with a query, prayer, scripture, poem or song to help lead us into worship together. Then we will sit together and share as led until 5PM.
Princeton area worship group --Friends gather at the home of one of the members for worship once a week.
NJ/AFRM family worship and potluck--This fall, five families with children ranging from 18 months to high school age, met for worship sharing, a potluck and fellowship. We had the worship sharing in the nursery, all we welcome to participate. The younger ones of us popped in and out. It was a great opportunity to meet other families, and get to know each other a little better. We hope to do it again.
All Friends Regional Meeting Arts Day--All Friends Regional Meeting experimented with forging and nurturing friendships among Friends across the region and generations by conducting an Arts Day at Chatham Summit Monthly Meeting one late Saturday afternoon and evening in April of 2012. It was a resounding success with 48 children and adults attending, many of them young families. Artists from various meetings oversaw mini-workshops in sculpting, fabric construction, origami, book-cover making, and beaded jewelry making. A show and tell, potluck and singing finale capped off a very enjoyable arts day. One parent said she felt like she had been on vacation and a child asked if we could do it every week!
June 29 Family Day at Easton MM, Easton, NY.
Easton Meeting invited families with school-age and preschool children from all of the Northeastern Regional Meeting to Family Day,Saturday, June 29 - a program of fun, fellowship and getting acquainted. This program was presented as a response to parts of three Advices from Faith and Practice: From Advice Five: "Meetings are urged to help parents and children share religious experiences at home and in the meeting for worship and to give them an understanding of the principles and practices of Friends."From Advice Six: "Parents and older Friends are advised to be sensitive to the insights of younger people and to keep a close and sympathetic contact with them."From Advice Seventeen (adopted July 27, 2012): "Friends are advised … to share with our children and others our love for God's creation." We also recognize that many Meetings do not have a sufficiently large group of school-age children to have a vital and meaningful First-Day school or youth program. We are thinking "out of the box," and hope that this day will inspire other Meetings in our region to find ways for Meetings to work together to communicate to our children our Quaker values and how we have learned to live these values.
UPCOMING NYYM EVENTS!
November 15-17, 2013 Fall Sessions will be held at Caldwell College, and Chatham Summit MM, both in Northern NJ. This is an easy commute from NYC, and is a wonderful opportunity to see what committees and the body of NYYM are doing. There will be an Multi-generational gathering and fellowship on Friday Evening. There will be Youth programming for ages 0-18 throughout the whole sessions weekend.
Questions? Please contact me, Gabi Savory Bailey, and I will get you to the right people. (firstname.lastname@example.org)
NYYM Fall Sessions 2013: Advance Schedule of Youth Program
Friday, November 15 at Chatham Summit
6:00 - 7:30 -- Simple supper
7:30 - 9:00 – Intergenerational getting-to-know-you w/ Mike Clark and Chris DeRoller
10:00 – Lights out for residential program of 7th-12th graders
Saturday, November 16 at Caldwell College
Infant to age 6 – All day childcare
8:00 - Registration (with parents)
8:30 – 9:30 – Community Building
9:30 – 10:00 – Snacks and movement
10:00 – 11:15 – Seeing Eye Program: DVD on Dog training, Q & A with dog & dog user
11:30 – 12:30 – Lunch in cafeteria
12:30 – 5:15 – Activities:
Films on That of God
Movement and music
Creative activity and community building
5:30-6:30 – Dinner in the cafeteria
7:30 – Rise and Shine and breakfast
8:30 – Cars/van will depart for Caldwell College
10:00 – 11:15 – Seeing Eye Program
11:30 – 12:30 – Lunch in cafeteria
12:45 – 2:30 – Activities:
Films on That of God
Movement and music
2:30 – 5:15 -- Committee meetings and de-briefing
-- Vision quest:
Seeing Stuff; Quaker Witness to Earth Care
Library building in Rwanda
Creative activity and community building
5:30 – 6:30 – Dinner in cafeteria
6:45 – Return to CSMM
7:30 to 9:00 – Music and light and lively
9:00 – 10:00 -- Hangout time
10:00 – Lights out
Sunday, November 17 at Chatham Summit
8 -9 --: Light breakfast
9- 12:15 -- Childcare and First Day School -- all ages
12:30 – 1:30 -- Luncheon
Friday, April 4, 2014 - April 6, 2014
Spring Sessions will be held
Colgate Rochester Crozer Divinity School, Rochester NY, and will be hosted by Farmington Scipio Regional Meeting.